How often do you catch yourself saying you "have to" do something? Probably more than you'd like to. Guess what, it's a trick. For starters, you don't HAVE TO do anything. Sure, every choice has its own special consequences, some good, some bad, some challenging, some delightful, some benign, and some deadly.
For instance, you wake up and your mind starts running with the "have tos", maybe they even woke you up. Stop. Do you really HAVE TO do those things, or are a lot of them choices based on personal preference or even old belief patterns? Do you really have to shave your legs every day even if you wear pants, or do you do it because you CHOOSE TO? Do you have to prepare an elaborate delicious healthy breakfast for yourself, or do you do it because you WANT TO? Do you have to go to school to continue your education, or do you GET TO?
Changing those words is a very powerful way to change your perception of your tasks. Looking at them in a new light of CHOOSE TO, WANT TO, and GET TO, makes them friendly and approachable. From there, organize them by what is most urgent. Like going to the bathroom may over-ride paying the bills, and getting dressed will probably happen before you go to work, etc.
You can decide whether you want to go to work/school/meeting/lunch today, it is valid. You may decide to keep your commitment, or take time for yourself. Empower yourself to see that you DO have a choice, even if it doesn't seem like it. If you choose to skip work, you may be fired, or if you miss that lunch you may be hungry, so you choose to go. You choose, nobody makes you, you don't have to, you are choosing to. Own it.
What about SHOULD?
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